Finding the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for your boo can be stressful AF. The wrong gift could literally make or break your relationship.
But fear not; simply follow this simple guide to find the perfect gift for your valentine. Here are six gifts to give, depending on what stage you’re at in your relationship:
1. You just started dating a week ago.
Well, yikes. This is awkward. You’re far from the little blue box phase, but you don’t want to completely ignore the holiday.
A small gesture is best for new relationships. You want your partner to know you’re thinking about him or her, without being overbearing and scaring your partner away.
What to do: Buy him or her a card and write a funny message on the inside. Sometimes acknowledging the awkwardness makes things less awkward.
If you feel inclined to get something a little more than a card, give your boo a Starbucks gift card or chocolate along with the card. You can never go wrong with chocolate or coffee.
2. You’ve been dating for a few months.
Your relationship is still new, but you’re seriously considering the “L” word. This relationship has serious potential, but it’s still in the beginning phase.
What to do: Plan a nice dinner for your valentine at a fancy restaurant. It will give you a chance to get dressed up and enjoy time together.
Gentlemen, if you really want to impress your lady, bring her roses when you pick her up for dinner. We all know red roses are the bold symbol of love and romance, but it might to best to stick to pink roses for this occasion, since your relationship is still developing.
Pink roses are a symbol of admiration and appreciation. What better time to show your admiration and appreciation than Valentine’s Day?
3. You’re in love.
You’ve been dating for a year or more, and you’re definitely in love. You talk about marriage, children and your future lives together.
What to do: If you’ve been dating for a year or more and have expressed love for each other, you’ve have officially entered jewelry territory. I don’t know any woman who wouldn’t swoon over a little blue box.
If your valentine isn’t the jewelry type, buy her a special gift you know she will love. The importance of the gift in this stage of your relationship is to show how much you care and to show how well you know the person.
4. You’re engaged.
The pressure is on. Your wedding is in a month.
You’ve been dating for a long time, and you are pretty much out of ideas when it comes to gift-giving. Money is also tight because you’ve spent it all on the wedding.
What to do: Make a scrapbook of your time together. At this point in your relationship, you both know how much you care about each other.
Although jewelry is nice, sometimes the most meaningful gifts are the ones that don’t cost a lot of money at all. Making a scrapbook of your memories together will remind your valentine of all your romantic adventures together and get her excited for your future life together.
Not to mention, it’s seriously creative. Gentlemen, you will get major brownie points for this one.
5. You’re married.
Whether you’re newlyweds or have been married for 10 years with four children, between work and the stress of everyday life, it’s hard to even kiss each other hello and goodbye, let alone go on a date. Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to celebrate your love for each other.
What to do: Plan a cozy date night in. You should never stop dating your spouse, and Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to do this.
If you’re married, you’re probably really comfortable around each other. You don’t need Tiffany boxes or fancy dinners. A simple date night at home is a perfect way to forget the daily stress and focus on each other.
If you have children, get a babysitter for the night. Make a nice dinner, watch a romantic movie and have some wine. Red roses are a must, of course.
6. You aren’t in a relationship.
Surprise! You don’t have to buy anything, and you don’t have to stress about buying something. You can buy yourself a gift.
Who said being single on Valentine’s Day was a bad thing? Shopping for the perfect Valentine’s Day gift can be a nerve-racking process, but just don’t get too caught up in the material aspect of the holiday.
Sometimes the best thing you can do for any relationship — no matter what phase — is simply showing someone just how much you really care. But a Tiffany box, chocolate, roses or a super fancy dinner wouldn’t hurt.